Often, we hear about the ideas of building trust and restoring trust. Have you ever thought to yourself, “That sounds easy enough, but how does trust work?”

One of the most common videos that I share with clients as we discuss trust in different types of relationships is Brené Brown’s Anatomy of Trust. Trust is like a marble jar; friends that we trust have done thing after thing to fill up our marble jar. Trust is built on small moments in our lives.

“Trust is choosing to make something important to you, vulnerable to the actions of someone else,” writes Charles Feltman. “Distrust is when what I have shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you.”

There is a need to be brave toward vulnerability. Brown coins the term “Braving Connection” as:

B- Boundaries

R- Reliability

A- Accountability

V- Vault

I- Integrity

N- Non-Judgement

G- Generosity

For more explanation on each of these terms, the video is truly worth the 20-minute watch!

The thing to examine first is your own marble jar: Do you trust yourself? Do you believe you are worthy of being trusted?

I challenge you to think about one person in your life and the reasons why you trust them. I think if we can identify these reasons in one person, it will be easier to break down this concept with others.

How can we grow in becoming more trustworthy people?

Written by: Kim DeRamus Lareau