When You Feel Hurt, What Story Are You Telling Yourself?

When we experience hurt or rejection as a result of an interaction with another person, we often are quick to make assumptions about their intent. Our brains then reward us for that assumption, even when that story is not accurate. Usually at the core of those assumptions is hurt about … Read More

Can a Story Be Any Good Without a Struggle?

If you are like me, then you enjoy all kinds of movies. From classics like It’s A Wonderful Life or Shawshank Redemption, to quirky movies like The Intouchables or Captain Fantastic. Occasionally I use movies as a tool for clients to make sense of their emotional experience. Inside Out has … Read More

How to be a Man: Messages on Masculinity- Part Four

In this fourth blog on the topic of masculinity, we will examine how the definition of masculinity shapes ideas about relationships and coping, for boys and young men. In kindergarten, a shift begins in the rules of boys playing with girls. If boys do play with girls, or appear weak, … Read More

The Subtle Art of Listening: It’s NOT About the Nail

Listening is a subtle art. Has this ever happened to you? Your spouse is expressing a concern, then all of the sudden you are told that you are NOT actually listening, and now you just started a fight. Sound familiar? If so, then you are not alone. Watch this quick … Read More

How to be a Man: Messages on Masculinity- Part Three

Many aspects of our society influence the definition of masculinity. In this third part of our series on Messages on Masculinity, we will examine how schools shape ideas about masculinity through educators and coaches, as presented in the documentary The Mask You Live In. According to sociologist and educator Dr. Pedro … Read More

Emotional Pain: Obstacle or Opportunity?

A natural response to emotional pain for many people (myself included) is to resist or avoid it. This makes sense because emotional pain can feel overwhelming. Predictably, many view emotional pain as an obstacle. For some, exploring difficult painful emotions can feel like a trap. Often with physical pain, we … Read More

What’s So Relatable About Batman?

If for some reason you haven’t noticed, there are a lot of superhero movies being made these days. Before superhero movies became so popular, the most iconic and successful superhero movies were the Batman films. Also, Batman is my favorite character and I have seen the movies more times that … Read More