Is My Marriage Worth Saving?

When working with couples, a variety of concerns may surface- from unresolved conflicts, to broken trust and forgiveness, or navigating a spouse’s desire to leave the marriage. Moving on or starting over could look appealing compared to the work needed to rebuild the marriage. However, it’s common for these individuals … Read More

Heal Your Marriage by Winning Every Conflict

JUST KIDDING! Now that I have your attention, that is NOT a helpful way to improve your marriage! Conflict is normal, understandable, inevitable, and even essential– when done well. That may be a complicated idea, and can be really difficult to wrap your head around when you are struggling, so … Read More

When You Feel Hurt, What Story Are You Telling Yourself?

When we experience hurt or rejection as a result of an interaction with another person, we often are quick to make assumptions about their intent. Our brains then reward us for that assumption, even when that story is not accurate. Usually at the core of those assumptions is hurt about … Read More

Can a Story Be Any Good Without a Struggle?

If you are like me, then you enjoy all kinds of movies. From classics like It’s A Wonderful Life or Shawshank Redemption, to quirky movies like The Intouchables or Captain Fantastic. Occasionally I use movies as a tool for clients to make sense of their emotional experience. Inside Out has … Read More

How to be a Man: Messages on Masculinity- Part Four

In this fourth blog on the topic of masculinity, we will examine how the definition of masculinity shapes ideas about relationships and coping, for boys and young men. In kindergarten, a shift begins in the rules of boys playing with girls. If boys do play with girls, or appear weak, … Read More