No Ordinary Connection


I can still remember my mother saying the words, “Think of a way to stand out,” while I was writing my college essays. Most of us think that we need to stand out to be recognized. Academics, coaches, music teachers, etc… all teach us the art of perfection. I recently … Read More

Increasing Intimacy: Physical Touch


Physical touch is a language that most people around the world use and understand. Many people use it to convey emotion like affection, love, lust, anger, fear, and a number of other emotions.  In many strong relationships, couples remember the little things that are important to their significant other. Physical … Read More

Living Whole-Heartedly Through Pain

Most of us have an immediate aversion to physical pain as well as emotional pain. We create all sorts of ways to avoid it. We turn to drugs or alcohol, we emotionally numb ourselves in order to not feel it. However, what if going through that pain leads to greater … Read More

Rape and Reconciliation: Part 2


In part 1 of this blog, we began to discuss Thordis and Tom’s journey through rape and reconciliation. Thordis’s era of shame was over, and she acknowledged that despite Tom’s actions or response, she deserved peace. It took Tom digging deep within himself to overcome his fear and denial to … Read More

Rape and Reconciliation: Part 1


Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger presented at a Ted conference together and had a heartfelt and courageous narrative of their journey to reconciliation around rape.  This journey began when they were 16 and 18 years old, with a high school romance and changed after one horrific evening. After one much … Read More

The Positive Impacts of Having a Pet


As I open the door to my house, I hear several paws scampering down the stairs. Two beagles run towards me smiling from ear to ear as they launch their wagging bodies onto me. I am met with this level of excitement every single day. This is by far one … Read More

Divorce: Dad or Mom left…now what?


Navigating divorce is difficult. There are many causes for divorce. A few of these are: Affairs Grown apart/fallen out of love Addiction Incompatible Divorce becomes even more complex when there are children involved. Many times, parents become bitter and angry towards each other and it is hard to treat each … Read More

Overcoming Unkindness


Have you ever been in situations where you have been subjected to other people’s snide remarks or mockery (of course, under the guise of innocent teasing). When you are subjected to this type of unkindness by friends or by family members, it can be easy to make an excuse. “Perhaps … Read More

The Post Holiday Blues


For many parents, the Christmas holiday is a time that they can see their family again. They can have all their children under one roof and operate happily amidst all the noise that was so familiar when the kids were growing up. But then the holiday hustle and bustle stop, … Read More

The Promise of the Holiday Season


In a world consumed with commercialism, it can be easy to lose sight of what the holiday season is really about. We tend to focus on superficial aspects of life and then fall hard when those things crumble before our eyes. Delicious food, presents, and lots of laughs are part … Read More