In part one of this series, we discussed the challenges and implications for teaching emotional regulation strategies for higher functioning individuals on the autism spectrum. Here in part two, we will examine research, as well as learning and thinking patterns that impact how these strategies might be introduced. Finally, in … Read More
Heal Your Marriage by Winning Every Conflict
JUST KIDDING! Now that I have your attention, that is NOT a helpful way to improve your marriage! Conflict is normal, understandable, inevitable, and even essential– when done well. That may be a complicated idea, and can be really difficult to wrap your head around when you are struggling, so … Read More
What Can Marshmallows and Self-Control Teach You About Your Child’s Future Success?
Does your child struggle with self-control and impulsiveness? Can a simple marshmallow tell about your child’s ability to wait? In the 1960s, Stanford Psychologists conducted a study that had children select a treat, such as a marshmallow or cookie. The child was told they could eat the marshmallow now, or … Read More
Emotional Regulation for Higher Functioning Individuals on the Autism Spectrum- Part 1
There is not much research on emotional regulation for children on the autism spectrum. The wide range of functioning levels and social deficits make it difficult to address emotions for children with autism. Teaching emotional regulation for higher functioning individuals can help them connect with their families, and help them … Read More
When You Feel Hurt, What Story Are You Telling Yourself?
When we experience hurt or rejection as a result of an interaction with another person, we often are quick to make assumptions about their intent. Our brains then reward us for that assumption, even when that story is not accurate. Usually at the core of those assumptions is hurt about … Read More
Can a Story Be Any Good Without a Struggle?
If you are like me, then you enjoy all kinds of movies. From classics like It’s A Wonderful Life or Shawshank Redemption, to quirky movies like The Intouchables or Captain Fantastic. Occasionally I use movies as a tool for clients to make sense of their emotional experience. Inside Out has … Read More
Connect, then Redirect: Helping Calm Your Child’s Brain and Emotions
Finding the best way to help calm your child’s emotions can be challenging. Dr. Dan Siegel is an expert on neurodevelopment and parenting. He has an extensive list of credentials and achievements. He has also written several books and given numerous speeches on the calming the brain. Here is a … Read More
How to be a Man: Messages on Masculinity- Part Four
In this fourth blog on the topic of masculinity, we will examine how the definition of masculinity shapes ideas about relationships and coping, for boys and young men. In kindergarten, a shift begins in the rules of boys playing with girls. If boys do play with girls, or appear weak, … Read More
The Subtle Art of Listening: It’s NOT About the Nail
Listening is a subtle art. Has this ever happened to you? Your spouse is expressing a concern, then all of the sudden you are told that you are NOT actually listening, and now you just started a fight. Sound familiar? If so, then you are not alone. Watch this quick … Read More
How to be a Man: Messages on Masculinity- Part Three
Many aspects of our society influence the definition of masculinity. In this third part of our series on Messages on Masculinity, we will examine how schools shape ideas about masculinity through educators and coaches, as presented in the documentary The Mask You Live In. According to sociologist and educator Dr. Pedro … Read More
