Note to Self: Let’s Get Real- Part One

At times, everyone struggles with what is and what could be. Perhaps one of the hardest arenas for this tension is in our inner world, our image of self. While having ideal desires is human, it can promote a battle between our “ideal” and our “real” selves. Without guardrails, the … Read More

Relationship Review- Part Two

This is part two of this series on Relationship Review. Click here for part one! The abundance of smart phones, and other media devices, has redefined our human interactions. Sadly, many users have become more comfortable with on-screen communication than a personal phone call or a face-to-face conversation. Technology has … Read More

Relationship Review – Part One

People are wired for relationship. Most of us know this experientially, but science confirms this too. Alfred Adler, renowned philosopher and psychiatrist, believed that we all have one basic desire and goal: to belong and to feel significant. It is often in our social arenas that we find our greatest … Read More

A Mindset of Successful Grieving

When there is a meaningful loss, grief is unavoidable. Whether it is the loss of a mate, a parent, a child, or even a dream, loss is a part of the human condition and, therefore, a universal experience. It is not a question of whether we will experience loss and … Read More

Being Present With Grief

Grief is best served when witnessed by a loving presence.  This is the ointment needed to soothe the wounds of a grieving person, according to renowned grief specialist, David Kessler. Very often, those around the grieving person struggle to find the right words or offer the perfect condolence, in hopes … Read More

Mine the Unconscious with Projective Exercises

Projective exercises are excellent therapeutic tools, designed to delve deeper into a person’s unconscious.  According to cognitive neuroscientists, we are conscious of approximately 5 percent of our cognitive activity.  This suggests that most of our decisions, actions, emotions, and behavior depends on the 95 percent of brain activity that goes beyond our conscious awareness. … Read More

The Deceptive Face of Suicide

The face of suicide can be deceptive. In the past few weeks, the suicides of two celebrity figures have dominated the news cycle. Public reaction included both shock and confusion; shock from their premature deaths, and confusion as to how people who seemingly had it all were driven to take … Read More

Forgiveness and Your Mental Health

The bottom line is that when people forgive, their thoughts, behaviors, feelings, and health become more positive. Deciding to forgive is a good first step. But, deeper forgiveness will have a greater positive impact on your mental and physical health.

Getting the Stress Monkey Off Your Back

The term “stress monkey” is both colloquial and scientific.  Urban Dictionary describes a stress monkey as “one who behaves like a panicked monkey, when placed under minimal stress.” Interestingly, there was a study done with monkeys to assess what type of stress was significant enough to cause ulcers. The Executive … Read More

Managing Anxiety as a Relationship Skill

People are made for relationship.  Our DNA directs us to belong and to seek intimacy.  What we rarely consider in our pursuit of belonging is that underlying anxiety effects the way we relate. Unbridled, reactive anxiety hurts the quality of our relationships. Therefore, managing anxiety is critical to healthy relationship … Read More