As I was reading recently, I came across a quote in Melody Beattie’s book Codependent No More that really spoke to me. “We jump into the first feeling that comes our way and then wallow in it…we are reacting without thinking. When we react we forfeit our personal, God-given power … Read More
The Bullying Phenomenon: The Bystander (Part 3)
In the final blog, we will explore the role of the bystander. Growing up in a society where bullying is extremely prevalent, if your child is lucky enough to avoid being bullied (or being a bully), chances are that he or she has witnessed bullying. Bullying is fostered when the … Read More
The College Experience – Conflict Resolution
Experience is a great teacher. We learn though successes, we learn through mistakes, and we even learn from the internet. This summer, we are helping our students learn before their college experience. We have pulled together our experience in working with some of the brightest students, experience from working on … Read More
The Bullying Phenomenon: The Bullied (Part 2)
In this second part of this blog, we will explore the bullying from the bullied perspective. In the book The Bully, The Bullied, and the Bystander, Barbara Coloroso revealed that 86 percent of children have self-reported that they are bullied at school. This is an enormous percentage!! Bullying instills fear … Read More
Is This Anxiety? Part 1
Anxiety and worry. These two terms are often used interchangeably, and understandably so, as almost constant worry is a large factor in anxiety. However, there are important distinctions between a normal level of worrying and anxiety, and recognizing this distinction can help you determine whether your’s or a loved one’s … Read More
Improve your Relationships by Increasing Positive Interactions
Do you keep score in your relationships of all the times your loved one has disappointed you? This can create a negative atmosphere that is difficult to overcome. I often tell my clients, “Whatever you are looking for you will find.” What I mean is, if you expect someone to disappoint you, you will only focus on what he/she is doing wrong, to prove you are right. I know we do this to protect ourselves from getting our hopes up and being let down. The problem with this behavior is we miss-out on the good things our loved one is doing.
Conflict: should the goal be resolution?
Have you ever felt like you and your partner are having the same argument over and over and it never gets resolved? Do you ever think, couldn’t I just phone this one in? Are you worn out from the battles? Perhaps it’s time for a new approach to conflict.
