A Lesson In The Art Of Apologizing

Apologizing effectively in relationships is an art form. When we apologize poorly, it can create barriers that keep us from making repairs.

A Lesson In The Art Of Complaining

One common complaint is when an issue comes up, and the complaining becomes about all the other mistakes and hurts that you have caused.

Healthy Relationships with Dating Apps

Healthy Relationships with Dating Apps

Can true love be found through online dating?  Yes No Maybe  All of the above—This is the answer   For some, online dating and dating apps will be a part of your love story (it’s part of mine). For others, this dating world may be full of cringe-worthy stories (I have … Read More

Courage: From Bruce Wayne to John Wayne

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What do you think of when you think of courage? I used to think about the main characters in my favorite stories as a kid; Jackie Robinson, Doc Holliday (the Val Kilmer version) and Batman. To 7-year old me, these guys seemed absolutely fearless, and that’s what courage meant to … Read More

Experiencing Positive Change in Your Relationships

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As a marriage and family therapist, the biggest hurdle that I see individuals and couples face in realizing the goals for their relationships is that they keep doing what they have been doing, in spite of having learned a better way. So, as the Nike ad says, “Just do it.” … Read More

Ignite Your Passion this Valentine’s Day with a Sex Talk

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It’s never a bad thing to have a sex talk with your partner, but it does require a thoughtful approach to ignite the passion in your relationship. Passion is what most couples I work with want more of when they assess their sexual needs. They want powerful, compelling emotions with … Read More

Love at First Sight: How Perceptions Impact Love

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The old adage, love at first sight, may be more scientific than we originally thought. Author Erik Van Alstine, Automatic Influence, has researched the idea of perceptions impacting love.  He argues that love is not a feeling first, it is first a perception. The feeling of love follows. What we … Read More

Couples Therapy: Experience Something New!

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If couples are going to change, they are going to need more than knowledge about what they could do differently. They are going to need to risk doing things differently and have new, healing experiences. DH Lawrence wrote, The world fears a new experience more than it fears anything. Because … Read More

Codependency and How to Care for Yourself

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Codependency can simply be described as helping others while harming yourself. Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you felt as if you were going “crazy?” Have you ever found yourself excessively worried, preoccupied or even obsessed with your partner’s problems? Codependency involves reactions which are unhealthy forms of … Read More