Words: Beyond Sticks and Stones

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You’ve probably heard the old saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” I appreciate the spirit of the maxim, the refusal to give credence to critical, spiteful, thoughtless speech. The problem is, it’s not true. Scientific studies, legislation regarding hate speech and even … Read More

Is Procrastinating Slowing You Down?

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I hear the same question all the time, from people who are busy every second of every day, from people who have a fairly reasonable work/life balance, and even from people who typically have a lot of down-time built into their routine. “How do I stop procrastinating and motivate myself … Read More

Is Psychotherapy Good For Business?

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Can psychotherapy be good for business? According to the World Health Organization, the answer is yes. And the financial upside is higher than you might think. It is no secret that mental illness is becoming an epidemic. According to the WHO, more than 300 million people are currently living with … Read More

Defense Mechanisms & Coping Skills – Regression – Part 3

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As I mentioned in previous blogs, defense mechanisms like denial, are unconscious responses to overwhelming stress in our lives. Although they serve an important purpose, if left unchecked, protective instincts from defense mechanisms can inhibit the development of healthier coping skills. Today, we are going to dive into the topic … Read More

Experiencing Positive Change in Your Relationships

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As a marriage and family therapist, the biggest hurdle that I see individuals and couples face in realizing the goals for their relationships is that they keep doing what they have been doing, in spite of having learned a better way. So, as the Nike ad says, “Just do it.” … Read More

Tips for setting GOALS!

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The start of a new year brings a lot of hope to people and many are inspired to set goals or resolutions. It is a symbol of new beginnings and having a clean slate. We feel determined to make this year better than the last. We want to get organized, … Read More

Eat more attentively

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Resolutions like “eat healthier” seem to be pretty common. But what if we tried to eat more attentively instead? We live in a pretty fast-paced culture. Leisurely lunch breaks are great. But sometimes “lunch” is a turkey sandwich in one hand and an iPhone in the other as we run … Read More

Ignite Your Passion this Valentine’s Day with a Sex Talk

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It’s never a bad thing to have a sex talk with your partner, but it does require a thoughtful approach to ignite the passion in your relationship. Passion is what most couples I work with want more of when they assess their sexual needs. They want powerful, compelling emotions with … Read More

Moving: New City, New Life

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Moving is hard, but moving through this challenge can make you stronger and a more well-rounded individual. Whether the change is due to school, a job, or just wanting a fresh start, people are moving to new cities all the time. Even if it is a change you are excited … Read More

Couples Therapy: Experience Something New!

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If couples are going to change, they are going to need more than knowledge about what they could do differently. They are going to need to risk doing things differently and have new, healing experiences. DH Lawrence wrote, The world fears a new experience more than it fears anything. Because … Read More