The Zebra

Do you ever find yourself with that sinking feeling when you have to address a topic for the 17th time with your partner?

Increasing Positive Interactions in Your Relationships

Do you keep score in your relationships of all the times your loved one has disappointed you? This can create a negative atmosphere that is difficult to overcome. If you expect someone to disappoint you, you will only focus on what they are doing wrong to prove you are right. The problem with this behavior is we miss-out on the good things our loved one is doing.

The Power of Listening Well

We’re busy. Our thoughts are going a million miles per hour. We’re used to having so much information flying at us, that to stop, press pause, focus, and just listen requires so much discipline.

Focus on the Home Team

Couples can actually learn a few valuable tricks from their favorite teams. According to marriage researcher, John Gottman, PhD., happy couples have a few things in common: They have friendship and admiration, they have each other’s back, they handle conflict well, and they have a sense of “we-ness”. With these characteristics, they form a pretty strong team that can handle life’s toughest challenges.

Fighting Fair

All healthy relationships encounter conflict. Learning to deal with conflict in a healthy way is paramount to keeping relationships strong. 

Childhood Emotional Neglect

Childhood emotional neglect is a common occurrence that affects a person into adulthood. Those who’ve experienced it often have no idea it exists.

Five Signs of Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence as a psychological theory was originally developed by Peter Salovey and John Mayer. They described it as “the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth,” (Mayer & Salovey, 1997).

How Honesty Heals Addiction

Have you ever thought about what it truly means to be honest? Does how honest we are really affect the quality of our lives? Are there different types of honesty or is it a one size fits all concept? These are questions I’ve been pondering and discussing with clients recently that deserve attention to, because I have seen how having these answers for yourself can really help your understanding of the problems you face, especially when it comes to addiction.