10 Rules to Live by for a Happy Relationship

As the summer heats up, make sure you keep things cool in your relationship.

Here are 10 rules to live by for a happy relationship…

1. I will communicate my expectations and not take it for granted that my significant other understands what I need or want.

2. I will verify my assumptions so that I have accurate information and feedback.

3.  I will strive toward understanding my significant other’s feelings and thoughts on a matter first, without criticism, before attempting to resist and fight or even negotiate and compromise.

4.  I will focus on resolving the issues and not attempt to make my significant other or our relationship the problem.

5.  I will give myself and my significant other permission to take a “time-out” from the discussion when it’s requested or needed, as long as I give a specific time frame when we will resume problem solving.

6.  I will take ownership of, and be completely accountable for my own feelings, thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors first, without shifting blame toward my significant other.

7.  I will not attempt to control my significant other with sarcasm, rage, threats, manipulation, shame, jealousy, or silence.

8.  I will be responsive and not reactive when discussing issues or receiving feedback about my behavior from my significant other.

9.  I will actively seek the forgiveness of my significant other when I am aware of any wrongdoing on my part, and I will extend forgiveness when it’s asked for.

10.  I will have a passionate relationship, one comprised of emotional and physical intimacy.

*ADAPTED FROM “WELL DONE: THE RULES FOR CREATING A WIN-WIN PROCESS IN MARRIAGE” BY ERIC SCALISE

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