Expectations are a frequent topic of conversation with my clients. Whether we are aware of them or not, our expectations have a tremendous influence on the way we interpret the people and the world around us. Most of the discussions in my office focus on the ways that expectations can … Read More
Fear-Setting: How You Can Overcome Paralysis and Take Action- Part 2
In part one of this blog series, I discussed a TED Talk titled “Why You Should Define Your Fears Instead of Your Goals.” In this talk, Ted Ferriss defines his concept of “fear-setting” as a concrete way to analyze your fears so that you can overcome paralysis and take action. … Read More
Stress: Different Kinds at Work
According to a recent survey of 2,000 workers by one of the nation’s top EAP providers, 60% of employees reported that they experienced high levels of stress. Another 32% said they experienced “constant, but manageable levels”. In other words, over 90% of employees deal with many levels of stress at … Read More
Is Procrastinating Slowing You Down?
I hear the same question all the time, from people who are busy every second of every day, from people who have a fairly reasonable work/life balance, and even from people who typically have a lot of down-time built into their routine. “How do I stop procrastinating and motivate myself … Read More
When is a job not just a job?
Three masons were on the job one day when a woman walked up to them and asked what they were doing. The first said, “I’m laying bricks.” The second said, “I’m building a wall.” The third said, “I’m creating someone’s home.” When helping clients with career or vocational counseling, one … Read More
For The Moments When Life Disappoints
Life is definitely not fair. This is a well-known fact. You probably heard an adult tell you this when you were a kid. Things very often do not turn out the way we planned or hoped. Often times, we must develop an alternate plan or goals for ourselves.
Community: Three Ways to Enhance Yours
Community is a word that we hear often. We have our work community, our neighborhood community, community outreach, and even the television comedy Community. Regardless of how you are thinking of the word ‘community,’ we are all members of various groups. These groups help us shape our view of belonging, purpose, and commitment to the group.
WHEN THE GAME IS OVER: Some Advice for Pro Athletes (Part 2)
After reading Friday’s post, whether you’re a pro athlete facing retirement, a pro sports wife, a coach, or a team owner, hopefully you will realize that when the game is over for an athlete, many people will be affected. There is good news. There is a “preretirement” approach to counseling … Read More
Entrepreneurs: Sprint to the Spa
We talked about how our bodies prepare when we run from tigers (which are really imaginary hamsters chasing us). As you might imagine, this process is quite taxing on our bodies – it’s the reason that tigers sleep for a day or two after a big hunt, their bodies are refueling and repairing. The very process that maximizes our chance of survival, over time, becomes destructive and damaging when we don’t take time to repair. We are made to sprint from danger and then rest and recover.
Entrepreneurs: Don’t Run From the Hamster
Not many people would disagree that world changers, entrepreneurs, and visionaries are passionate people. Passion people invest so fully physically, emotionally, and mentally that it is easy for them to lose perspective. The problem with losing perspective is that we can no longer trust our perceptions to be accurate. This might not seem like a big deal but let’s talk for a minute about how important our perceptions are.
