When working with couples, a variety of concerns may surface- from unresolved conflicts, to broken trust and forgiveness, or navigating a spouse’s desire to leave the marriage. Moving on or starting over could look appealing compared to the work needed to rebuild the marriage. However, it’s common for these individuals to have the same problems show up in their next relationship.

You have probably heard the old saying, “The grass is greener on the other side,” and it makes sense when all hope seems lost. In my experience, when love is not cultivated, feelings fade over time. Arguments and resentments in a marriage grow like weeds that strangle any hope that your marriage is worth preserving. What I’ve noticed in many cases is the grass is greener where you water it.

Since maintaining love takes work, you might have to get some dirt under your nails. Your marriage may need watering or fertilizing before it can come back to life. Bottom line: it’s going to take effort and sacrifice to heal.

If how you’ve been handling your marriage isn’t producing the results you hoped for, or you have a lot of work that needs to be done, then finding a trained therapist could be the start of bringing your marriage back to life.

Written by: Dustin Ellis