Many researchers have found that as a culture we are “extending adolescence” longer and longer; this can lead to missing the impact that our twenties have on our lives.

In my clinical work, I counsel a large number of twenty- and thirty-somethings. Several years ago, I was introduced to the work of Dr. Meg Jay who wrote, “The Defining Decade.” A few highlights of the book are found in her Ted Talk .

I love her book and research because it really focuses on how to make the most of the defining decade of our twenties. Dr. Jay reports that eighty percent of life’s most defining moments happen before age 35.

That may sound alarming to many of us. However, as counselors we love empowering our clients to discover that we have the power to make healthy and wise decisions during our twenties and thirties! Dr. Jay’s research also provides empowering information related to preparing for marriage and a family, finding our sweet spot in careers, understanding healthy friendships, and living fully in our personal identity.

Kim DeRamus, LPC