Consider how you treat yourself after you experience failure. Do you engage in self-criticism, shaming thoughts, or take inventory of your shortcomings or bad luck? Now ask yourself how you would treat a good friend who experienced a similar failure. I’ve noticed, we will say things to ourselves that we would never say to our worst enemy. The reason is most people are compassionate by nature. Most wouldn’t dream of intentionally hurting a fellow human being, yet they will do so to themselves.
Nine Things to Quit for Your Mental Health
Your mental health is important. Quitting these nine things that interfere with your well-being could improve your mental health!
Grief and the Holidays
Here is a list of ways to help manage grief during the holidays- a time that may be particularly hard when dealing with the loss of a loved one.
Incorporating Self-Compassion Into Your Life
Why is it we say things to ourselves that we would never say to even our worst enemy? Harsh self-criticism seems to be the norm. But is it really helpful? Instead try a little self-compassion next time you think you’ve messed up.
Self-Compassion: A Healthier Approach to Well-Being
In our highly-driven culture, the common belief is that success depends on being competitive and pushing yourself to your limits. What if this approach proved to be more harmful than helpful? Recent research shows self-criticism and a competitive attitude create obstacles to achieving goals.
Thoughts and Habits Worth Changing
Changing these nine thought patterns and associated behaviors that interfere with your well-being could improve your mental health.
Five Things to Help Increase Your Willpower
Willpower helps us live consistent with our values and long-term goals, we are typically more content and happy. Learning to recognize your own signs when you are stressed is one of the most important steps in improving your willpower.
Don’t Quit Your Resolutions
You decided to make positive changes in the New Year and within a few days or even hours, you slip up and revert to your old way of doing things. This does not mean that you should give up on your resolutions.
Increasing Positive Interactions in Your Relationships
Do you keep score in your relationships of all the times your loved one has disappointed you? This can create a negative atmosphere that is difficult to overcome. If you expect someone to disappoint you, you will only focus on what they are doing wrong to prove you are right. The problem with this behavior is we miss-out on the good things our loved one is doing.
Finding the Right Therapist
We’ve put together a list of questions that may be helpful for you to ask as you are considering who to choose as a therapist!