Finances that is….Start marriage with an agreed upon financial plan you can both stick with and save yourself many future arguments. Finances are one of the top issues couples argue about so having a pre-determined plan will help you navigate difficult financial decisions that often turn into power struggles. No … Read More
Kids first?
Contrary to popular belief about marriage, it is better to put your spouse first and your children second. The whole family will be happier because the order of the family is known and consistent. Put your spouse first by making time for daily talks, cuddles, and occasional date nights consistently … Read More
The Eggplant
Do you ever find yourself with that sinking feeling when you know you are going to have to address a particular topic for the 17th time with your partner? How do you bring it up? I often suggest to my clients to give it a code name…and the more playful … Read More
Relationship Joy
Relationships often become mundane. After the sparkles of dating wear off, the mundane of life can settle in. Rather than longing for the magic of the early stages of the relationship, look for ways to find joy in the mundane. There is always something to celebrate if you are on … Read More
10 Steps to Forgiveness
Is there someone or something in your life that needs to be forgive? Here are some practical steps to help with the process. Forgiveness can take a while and is often a process rather than an event. Some of these steps might be harder than others, and there might be … Read More
Finding a Healthy Relationship
Louis Vuitton? Gucci? Dolce and Gabbana? We all have baggage that we bring into a relationship…the only difference is that some people have designer bags! While we are joking about that last part (sort of) we do have a tendency to engage in unhealthy relationships, even when we want to … Read More
Boundaries in Dating
Have you ever been in a dating relationship where you looked back and wondered where you went? Sometimes we get into relationships where we loose ourselves and don’t realize how much we have lost our voice, individualism, or perspective until we get out of the relationship. Others can tell us … Read More
What is Love?
Before I attempt to answer this age old question, I’ll start by first telling you what love is not: love is not the butterflies in our stomachs, the goosebumps when skin touches skin, the long day dreams and feelings of “walking on air.” It is not the racing heart, the … Read More
Happy Relationships – Part 2
10 Rules to Live by for a Happy Relationships… 6. I will take ownership of, and be completely accountable for my own feelings, thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors first, without shifting blame toward my significant other. 7. I will not attempt to control my significant other with sarcasm, rage, threats, … Read More
Happy Relationships – Part 1
10 Rules to Live by for a Happy Relationships… 1. I will communicate my expectations and not take it for granted that my significant other understands what I need or want. 2. I will verify my assumptions so that I have accurate information and feedback. 3. I will strive … Read More
