According to the Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory, divorce ranks second in the list of most stressful events in life. If you are going through, or even contemplating divorce, you should know that the stress of divorce is probably going to wear you down. There is no doubt that anyone going through … Read More
Redefining Life after Divorce – Sadie Bjornstad’s Ted Talk
Divorce is a difficult choice. It is a road that none of us plan to go down before saying “I do.” However, for many couples, it is an unfortunate reality. When you are the one going through it, it can feel very lonely, and sometimes, shameful. In her Ted Talk, … Read More
Recognizing When You Are in a Toxic Relationship
Poison comes with a warning label and an identifiable picture of skull and crossbones. Wouldn’t it be helpful if certain toxic people in our lives came with the same? Actually, the person himself is not toxic, but rather the behavior in your relationship is. The challenge is, this behavior is … Read More
I Want You to Want Me: A Rock Anthem of Co-dependent Romance
I want you to want me. I need you to need me. I’d love you to love me. – Cheap Trick; In Color, 1977 Cheap Trick’s live recording of their song, I Want You to Want Me, became the highest charting song of their career, peaking at number 7 on … Read More
Establishing Boundaries with Your Divorcing Spouse
According to the Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory, divorce ranks as the second most stressful event in life. If you are going through, or even contemplating divorce, you should know that the stress of divorce is probably going to wear you down. In my work with divorcing couples and individuals, I have … Read More
Grief Part 2 – Stages of Grief
If you’re keeping up with our series on grief, today’s post may feel a bit contradictory. Although there is no set timetable or experience of grief for every person, two models exist that help explain what grief might look like. The stages of grief are not meant to be prescriptive, … Read More
Establishing Boundaries with Your Children During Your Divorce
Most children come through divorce fairly well. The research has shown that most children of divorce show few, if any, long term difficulties from their parent’s divorce. The research has also has found that children of parents with an abusive marriage fair better post-divorce than they did during the marriage … Read More
A Mindset of Successful Grieving
When there is a meaningful loss, grief is unavoidable. Whether it is the loss of a mate, a parent, a child, or even a dream, loss is a part of the human condition and, therefore, a universal experience. It is not a question of whether we will experience loss and … Read More
Voicing Frustration
In the second blog post of this series, we will explore the warning signs of reactive anger and the importance of using your anger to clarify what you need. When there are problems in relationships, often there is one partner who can be more vocal and reactive about the situation. … Read More
Four Questions You Should Answer Before Leaving Your Marriage
Making a decision to leave your marriage is probably the most painful and difficult time in one’s life. Question after question can consume your thoughts before you leave your marriage: Will I be ok? Will my children be ok? What will others think? Much of the time, each partner is … Read More
